Thanks for all your sweet comments in response to Monday’s post. It seems that many of you know what its like to follow your heart and have to create a new “home” for yourself somewhere besides where you grew up. That’s awesome!
Its that time of week again, and what better opportunity to share my experience with the best Thanksgiving so far?
This year was an experience far different than I’ve ever had. Last year took a lot of mental preparation, but this year felt like just another day. When we brought out the appetizers, I happily enjoyed a bloody mary and a cracker or two with cheese while catching up with the cousins and watching football. When it came time for “linner” ( we ate about 3pm) I pied my plate high with veggies, then got a spoonful of sweet potatoes, and little turkey.
There was wine too, obviously.
We ate, and I enjoyed mine without guilt or judgement. I truly have turned into a vegeatable fiend, and was delighted to have four different veggie dishes on my plate, but not because I was “being good” or because they are “safe”. I ate to a normal level of full without thinking or calculating, and was able to be present at the table–to laugh and share in all the joy that was going on.
Later, when it was time for dessert, we had two of my favorite things–my mom’s pumpkin swirl cheesecake and peppermint stick ice cream. I wasn’t hungry, and did think about saying no, but since when is having dessert about being hungry?
I had mine and thoroughly enjoyed it. THere was no fight in my head as I brought the spoon to my lips. There was no desire to go in the kitchen and finish off the rest straight out of the pan. I had it, then had some dandelion root tea, and snuggled up with the cousin to watch his 6th grade football highlight video–which was AWESOME.
So, best Thanksgiving yet? Absolutely. Why? Because never was my focus more on food than it was on family or being together.
Trust me kids, I didn’t think that it was possible to live without constantly counting and judging. But it IS. It just takes time. Last year, I needed to make a plan. I needed to make sure that I fit Thanksgiving into my eating plan as though it was “just another day”. I needed to be ready to defend my food choices, and I needed to practice setting good boundaries with myself around food. Doing all that allowed this year’s Thanksgiving to actually be “just another day” as far as food goes. Sure, on a normal day, I don’t drink that much red wine, and I very rarely have dessert, but for the most part I ate like I always do–by listening to my body, choosing things I want and enjoy, AND that nourish me and make me feel good, and without judgement. Without food being the center of my attention, I was able to the holiday truly special. I’m looking forward to many many more Thanksgivings to come!
Do you struggle with food on Thanksgiving?
What are some ways you deal with the potential stress of the day?
What is your favorite Thanksgiving dessert? I hate pumpkin pie or pecan pie, but pumpkin cheesecake is heavenly!